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You'll never be strong enough. You'll never be good enough.
I figured out what attention seekers are actually after. Of course they are after attention, but why? What makes them desire this unnatural need for people to feel for them? I've dealt with a few attention seekers in my life. I hate it the most of anything I've ever had to deal with. I flat out abandoned my friend when she started doing s**t, acting like she had such horrible problems, when it reality, her life was peachy. She even began cutting herself from time to time, not because she had the true mentality of a cutter, but to make it look like she was gonna commit suicide so that people would give her what she wanted.
So, I was watching Roseanne the other night. Roseanne was talking to her mother and her mother was saying how she had no control over her alcoholism. She said she had not control. Roseanne said "That's CRAP! Ever since you started your AA meetings, you've been acting like this big victim so you can control everyone around you". And it was true. She had been drinking all those years and never felt like she was a victim. Now suddenly that she had a diagnosis and people telling her "your a victim to your alcoholism", suddenly she's using it to get everything she wants. She was demanding people be around her when ever she wanted...
I realized that she was seeking attention. She acted as though she was a hugh victim, ignoring the fact that she had more control over the situation than she wanted to believe and was making people feel sorry for her. Yes, she had a problem and needed help overcoming it, but she took far too much advantage of the situation.
So now, I've realized that attention seekers feel as though they have no control over things and what they are really trying to acchomplish is to control others by forcing them into showing them the desired emotion and action.
Jahzara Ashford shadowninjaofthemist Or it might be a self esteem issue. They might not feel good about themselves so if they keep talking about how bad life is and how much they hate themselves, they are hoping others will tell them how good they are Yeah, I agree with you on that one as well. I think that in those kinds of situations, the person doesn't realize how much control the actually have over their own selves. They rely on others to make them feel good. They still in essence are controlling them... -_- I think they get their high from knowing that they got someone to think they way they wanted rather than getting what it seems they were looking for.
In the end, I find it sad of what they do. It's a never-ending vicious cycle that can only truely be broken once the person realizes what they are after and can start giving themselves self-esteem. It's almost the habbit of a drug addict. They themselves don't produce their own abillity to feel good about themselves. So they have to get it from others. But that doesn't last long, and they have to go back and find it again. It's a horrible thing both for the attention seeker and the 'dealer'. (No one likes having that sucked out of them.)
You were never conceived in love. You will never rise above.
 Jahzara Ashford · Sat Jun 02, 2007 @ 06:13am · 0 Comments |
