So I was told something the other day. That I didn't believe at first, I couldn't believe. It sounded ridiculous, there was absolutely no way it could be true. Not in any real SANE reality. But apparently this world if full of nutters, because it's completely true. Completely and utterly, laughing your a** off wearing a mercury rimmed hat true. It's a mad, mad freaking world is all I can say before I explain.
Let me go back a ways back before I even begin. Some backstory is in order, some details for the ill informed if you will. I dated a girl for 3 and a half years. I even lived with her and her parents for 2 years, I moved from Illinois to Tennessee to be with her. Well in August 2007, she dumped me. Just completely out of no where dumped me. She returned from a family month long vacation in new york, changed and obviously mentally disabled. Harsh? Just read on.
In any case, she dumped me. My shock and dismay is irrelevant because the cold hard fact was she wanted out. I tried hard to get her to stay, but it didn't happen and thus is life, thus is fate. In which case appears to be in my favor. See at the time she dumped me she was talking to this army guy online. I could see her posts on myspace, and his posts to her. They were more than friendly chatter, and it was obvious what she had done. When I confronted her she SWORE to me that he was just a friend and nothing more. I even talked with her parents and warned her dad. I explained how her and I were in the beginning, and she was just doing the same thing. He however believed his daughter, obviously trusting and putting his faith in her. Which is usually a good thing, except when in this case it's obvious he drank the weird tea at the teaparty.
But yeah, after the break up I was completely and simply devastated. I was depressed, I would just curl up in a ball in my apartment and spend time alone for hours. I stopped eating right, infact I've dropped over 50 pounds as proof. I loved my exgirlfriend and did everything to make things work. I moved to Tennessee to be with her. I didn't go to college, because that meant her and I couldn't be together. I didn't ask her to move to me, because she was younger and I didn't want her to not have a relationship with her parents. I wanted her to go to college, further her life and still be connected with her family. I never EVER wanted to steal her away to some stay, and make her ruin her future.
But she has completely screwed up her life, she's just a complete idiot. What do I mean? Oh don't get me wrong. I'm not being vain, this isn't about me. She didn't ruin her life by losing me. It was only her first step in retardation.
See...
My Ex-girlfriend got MARRIED in December, or January.
Allow me to repeat myself.
My Ex-Girlfriend, Julia got MARRIED.
To whom? The 25 year old army guy. rolleyes I found this out just a couple days ago. First an old friend sent me a email. Asking if I heard she got married. My response?
"No I freaking didn't, to who and why?"
To which they told me of seeing her facebook and reading about it. Apparently, in january or december she got married to the guy and she had dropped out of college. I was only left in awe and disbelief. There was no possible way I thought, that her parents would have allowed it! They were so strict about college, they had such a stance on her getting married. Afterall, I was going to wait until she turned 25. The only explaination I had was she either had gotten pregnant, or did it behind their backs.
So yesterday I asked another reliable friend and got the details. From what I was told;
She had been talking with him online for a while. She told her parents she was going to see a friend and went to visit him over her christmas break. He apparently proposed either right away, or somewhere along the month. In which she said yes, and apparently didn't want to go back to tennessee. She told her parents she had gotten engaged and they took off to try and stop her.
Apparently she either gave them no choice. They couldn't stop her or they were to late. My friend didn't know for sure which. But regardless she got married. So now she is living in washington with the guy. She's dropped out of college, and is apparently a STEP MOM. Yeah, the guy has kids and was divorced.
Someone obviously has gone a little mad, agree?
I also heard that she was apparently cheating on me while we were together. From what I was told, she had a fling with a guy in new york, thus explaining her extra week stay there and barely talking to me on the phone. The prior years to this we would talk an upwards an hour a night. This year sometimes it was just 5 minutes.
She was also supposed to have been talking to guys online, and apparently met some 30 year old one weekend when I wasn't around. Which frankly, disgusts me. I feel stupid, and dirty at the same time. I had started to suspect her for a few months. She went from allowing me to read her emails and sit beside her on the computer. To not letting me be in the same room, and not allowing me to even look at her phone. She said it was because her parents never trusted her. Which I found odd, because she never had a problem with me before. But I just gave her some space, and trusted.
Obviously I tried on her hat for a time too right?
In any case I'm glad I found this out now. When I was completely over her, and realized she was an idiot. When you're in a relationship it's easy to blind yourself to someones flaws, and to settle on something you assume is good. Even when it isn't.
I'm glad I didn't find out in december while this was happening. Because frankly, I had just started to like someone other than Julia and that would of completely devastated me. Sure I was over her by around october, but still never found someone else to like until that point. It took me a while to even accept the fact that there was, and is much much better things than that girl.
I do on the other hand feel horrible for her parents. I'm not sure how they've taken it. But I can only imagine how her dad felt about her dropping out of college. Or how her mom reacted to her moving away. She was their only kid. I would guess they feel like they lost her.
But from what I heard when asked. They explain it like she met him through friends and they had talked for a long time prior. Then just got married really fast. I know they probally don't want to be humilated so they tell people that. But I honestly cannot believe they would really approve of this. If it was the case, I would never speak to them again. Not after everything I went through, how long I stayed with her and them stiffling our relationship. No way.
I feel horrible for them. But I can't say it wasn't coming. They smothered her, the let this happen. She got lucky with me. I never stole her away or did something crazy. I only wanted what was best for her, and even THEM. For all of us as a whole. That was my focus, THAT was what I wanted. I would of never stole her away, gotten married and let her drop out of college.
It doesn't matter. Because I will absolutely never get back with her. Ever. She broke my heart, lied to me, cheated on me. She is quite bluntly a moron. But hey, at least I don't have to worry about running into in town anymore!
Oh hey, I nearly forgot. But the single most craziest thing I was told. Which I don't even know I can believe. But at the same time believe it, because it's freaking Julia.
Apparently if this guy she marrys wants to get back with his exwife. Julia is willing to step aside and let them get together.
WTF.
I'm sorry but if you ruin your life to get with someone. Let's just say it's for love, fine thats ok. Be sure to at least stay with them for the rest of your life. Because getting married and dropping out of college. JUST to later let your husband get with his exwife is RETARDED. If you were going to do that, you should of just stayed his girlfriend. Seriously.
Sometimes people need to remember to check how their hats are made before trying them on. Or rather, think about their actions before going through with them.
HA!
~DJ Bothwell
 XDvandalDJ · Fri Apr 11, 2008 @ 04:03am · 10 Comments |
