Sorry for this really emo ish rant.
So I'm in tenth grade now, when I was in eighth grade my best friend from when I was three moved out of Colorado. I was kind of upset about it, but it wasn't a big deal, I keep in touch with him. A few days later a new kid moved into our school, he became me new best friend until last year when he just decided that he didn't like me, I was really suprised, especially after he went around telling the rest of my friends not to talk to me. They didn't listen to him, luckilly enough. This past year, over the summer actually, I thought I made some new friends to try and replace my old ones, I talked to them very often and this past month, once again, I got stabbed in the back. I've been very mopey since then but my other friends have become closer to me, until today. There ore two of them, one of them is the type of person who seems really nice at first, and quiet sometimes, but then out of no where today in math class he stopped talking to me, I was really confused, then the other friend during lunch and after school literally sprinted down the hall to get away from me. I didn't talk to either of them the entire day until I got online around 6:30 and put my away message asking one of them to call me ASAP, because I had to shower again, and clean up from practice. I get out and eat, still no calls, I call them, there parents say they aren't home. Then I get back online and I get this.
"Jacob" [8:14 PM]: i told her what you called her
Iast turn [8:52 PM]: Why is she mad?
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Because I haven't talked to her all day.
"Jacob" [8:53 PM]: i told her what you called her and she thinks your really annoying
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Why?
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Because I had to ask her something?
Iast turn [8:54 PM]: And so she's mad at me for it?
"Jacob" [8:54 PM]: no, because your mean and you wont stop touching her
Iast turn [8:55 PM]: And she had to run down the hall when I need to ask her sometihng without even telling me it? While Phil says it's something different and more important.
"Jacob" [8:55 PM]: she doesnt want to talk to you and you cant make her, just leave her alone, thats what she wants
Iast turn [8:55 PM]: How ironic
"Jacob" [8:57 PM]: whatever, i feel that same way
Iast turn [8:57 PM]: Good to know.
Iast turn [8:57 PM]: In that case...
"Jacob" [8:58 PM]: ?
Iast turn [8:58 PM]: Trying to get the AOL menu up.
"Jacob" [8:59 PM]: blocking me?
Iast turn [8:59 PM]: Good idea.
STJacob4444 [8:59 PM]: finally
STJacob4444 signed off at 9:00 PM
Then I get this a little bit later...
Importantppl42 [9:15 PM]: ok
Auto response from Iast turn [9:15 PM]: Stabbed
In
The
Back
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: listen
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: Tory doesnt want 2 talk 2 u
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: she will probably get over it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: soon enough
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: just leave her alone
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: every1 is pissed off at u
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: for it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: becuz u wont leave her alone
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: so do it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: ok?
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: good
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: she will talk 2 u when she feels like it
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: just give her time
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: she is extreamly pissed off at the world right now
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: and she doesnt need ppl in it
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: soooooooo LEAVE HER ALONE
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: and she will talk 2 u again
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: bye now
Iast turn [9:20 PM]: 1. Who is this?
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: None of ur bussiness
Iast turn [9:21 PM]: Then why should I bother listening to you.
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: becuz it would do u great good
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: and will win u bk a firend
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: what every1s against u know
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: right
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: well u did call Jacob an a**
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: and her a b***h
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: behide there backs
Iast turn [9:22 PM]: 1. Get the final story before anything.
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: what her running all around the skool
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: tring 2 get away from u
Iast turn [9:22 PM]: I was going to talk to Jacob which is why I asked about why he asked if I hated him. I didn't get a chance to when he snubbed me.
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: dont u get the hint
Iast turn [9:23 PM]: And Tory, how can I talk to someone who is running away.
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: well
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: one
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: she is pissed at the world right now
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: and is taking it out on her closest ppl
Iast turn [9:24 PM]: If I had a chance to talk to Tory I'd tell her I was really sorry for what I said, but I don't think she heard the entire story behind why I said I thought she was a b***h and I don't think she was listening to what I told her on the phone because she was on IM with someone.
Importantppl42 [9:24 PM]: she just doesnt want 2 talk 2 ppl
Iast turn [9:24 PM]: But I would explain to her that I only said it was a joke and I was looking for her ever since third period to figure out what was going on and apologize.
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: g2g
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: bye
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Stop
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: no
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Tory, this is you, on your second IM isn't it.
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: The one Phil mentioned.
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: dad pissed
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: nope
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Then since I don't know who you are have fun.
I had been talking to Tory on the phone the night before because I was a bit freaked out, it was around 8 PM, really dark, and there was a guy on the other side of the street who kept looking back at me. The conversation was dieing and I needed to keep my mind off fear (It's a long story behind why that freaked me out) so I brought up something Jacob said to me. And I said (quoted from the phone convo I recorded) "Hehe, I have to tell Jacob he was being an a** when he said that thing on saturday, y'know when I was walking to my moms car? I should be mad at him for it but I'm really not, it's a good thing I'm not since he was joking." And apparentally Tory told Jacob that I called him an asswipe, so I said that Tory was being bitchy and needed to get her story right so I needed to talk to her, I usually see her after Math class in the hall, but I didn't because we were running a bit late. So Jacob told her I called her a stupid little b***h or something. And whoever Importantppl42 is needs to mind their own buisiness.
Now please help me out here. In these three situations, what did I do wrong?
So I'm in tenth grade now, when I was in eighth grade my best friend from when I was three moved out of Colorado. I was kind of upset about it, but it wasn't a big deal, I keep in touch with him. A few days later a new kid moved into our school, he became me new best friend until last year when he just decided that he didn't like me, I was really suprised, especially after he went around telling the rest of my friends not to talk to me. They didn't listen to him, luckilly enough. This past year, over the summer actually, I thought I made some new friends to try and replace my old ones, I talked to them very often and this past month, once again, I got stabbed in the back. I've been very mopey since then but my other friends have become closer to me, until today. There ore two of them, one of them is the type of person who seems really nice at first, and quiet sometimes, but then out of no where today in math class he stopped talking to me, I was really confused, then the other friend during lunch and after school literally sprinted down the hall to get away from me. I didn't talk to either of them the entire day until I got online around 6:30 and put my away message asking one of them to call me ASAP, because I had to shower again, and clean up from practice. I get out and eat, still no calls, I call them, there parents say they aren't home. Then I get back online and I get this.
"Jacob" [8:14 PM]: i told her what you called her
Iast turn [8:52 PM]: Why is she mad?
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Because I haven't talked to her all day.
"Jacob" [8:53 PM]: i told her what you called her and she thinks your really annoying
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Why?
Iast turn [8:53 PM]: Because I had to ask her something?
Iast turn [8:54 PM]: And so she's mad at me for it?
"Jacob" [8:54 PM]: no, because your mean and you wont stop touching her
Iast turn [8:55 PM]: And she had to run down the hall when I need to ask her sometihng without even telling me it? While Phil says it's something different and more important.
"Jacob" [8:55 PM]: she doesnt want to talk to you and you cant make her, just leave her alone, thats what she wants
Iast turn [8:55 PM]: How ironic
"Jacob" [8:57 PM]: whatever, i feel that same way
Iast turn [8:57 PM]: Good to know.
Iast turn [8:57 PM]: In that case...
"Jacob" [8:58 PM]: ?
Iast turn [8:58 PM]: Trying to get the AOL menu up.
"Jacob" [8:59 PM]: blocking me?
Iast turn [8:59 PM]: Good idea.
STJacob4444 [8:59 PM]: finally
STJacob4444 signed off at 9:00 PM
Then I get this a little bit later...
Importantppl42 [9:15 PM]: ok
Auto response from Iast turn [9:15 PM]: Stabbed
In
The
Back
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: listen
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: Tory doesnt want 2 talk 2 u
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: she will probably get over it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: soon enough
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: just leave her alone
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: every1 is pissed off at u
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: for it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: becuz u wont leave her alone
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: so do it
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: ok?
Importantppl42 [9:16 PM]: good
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: she will talk 2 u when she feels like it
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: just give her time
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: she is extreamly pissed off at the world right now
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: and she doesnt need ppl in it
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: soooooooo LEAVE HER ALONE
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: and she will talk 2 u again
Importantppl42 [9:17 PM]: bye now
Iast turn [9:20 PM]: 1. Who is this?
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: None of ur bussiness
Iast turn [9:21 PM]: Then why should I bother listening to you.
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: becuz it would do u great good
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: and will win u bk a firend
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: what every1s against u know
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: right
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: well u did call Jacob an a**
Importantppl42 [9:21 PM]: and her a b***h
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: behide there backs
Iast turn [9:22 PM]: 1. Get the final story before anything.
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: what her running all around the skool
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: tring 2 get away from u
Iast turn [9:22 PM]: I was going to talk to Jacob which is why I asked about why he asked if I hated him. I didn't get a chance to when he snubbed me.
Importantppl42 [9:22 PM]: dont u get the hint
Iast turn [9:23 PM]: And Tory, how can I talk to someone who is running away.
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: well
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: one
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: she is pissed at the world right now
Importantppl42 [9:23 PM]: and is taking it out on her closest ppl
Iast turn [9:24 PM]: If I had a chance to talk to Tory I'd tell her I was really sorry for what I said, but I don't think she heard the entire story behind why I said I thought she was a b***h and I don't think she was listening to what I told her on the phone because she was on IM with someone.
Importantppl42 [9:24 PM]: she just doesnt want 2 talk 2 ppl
Iast turn [9:24 PM]: But I would explain to her that I only said it was a joke and I was looking for her ever since third period to figure out what was going on and apologize.
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: g2g
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: bye
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Stop
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: no
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Tory, this is you, on your second IM isn't it.
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: The one Phil mentioned.
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: dad pissed
Importantppl42 [9:25 PM]: nope
Iast turn [9:25 PM]: Then since I don't know who you are have fun.
I had been talking to Tory on the phone the night before because I was a bit freaked out, it was around 8 PM, really dark, and there was a guy on the other side of the street who kept looking back at me. The conversation was dieing and I needed to keep my mind off fear (It's a long story behind why that freaked me out) so I brought up something Jacob said to me. And I said (quoted from the phone convo I recorded) "Hehe, I have to tell Jacob he was being an a** when he said that thing on saturday, y'know when I was walking to my moms car? I should be mad at him for it but I'm really not, it's a good thing I'm not since he was joking." And apparentally Tory told Jacob that I called him an asswipe, so I said that Tory was being bitchy and needed to get her story right so I needed to talk to her, I usually see her after Math class in the hall, but I didn't because we were running a bit late. So Jacob told her I called her a stupid little b***h or something. And whoever Importantppl42 is needs to mind their own buisiness.
Now please help me out here. In these three situations, what did I do wrong?
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HALLOWEEN
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Sensibility in the form of high schoolers is really difficult, and honestly I think having your own space right now is the greatest idea you can have.
I still have no idea what you specifically did wrong, but in my opinion this seems to be a case of misinterpretation.
If either Jacob or Tory gets the sensibility to try and talk to you directly about these things then that's when you can state your case; otherwise you're somewhat stuck.
Sorry if I'm a bit late on the distress call. If you need me, you can always try to call me. :3