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You fear that you will disappear because you are not worthy of existing. Using the excuse that no one cares about you is the same as running away from problems. What everybody truly fears is failure and being hated by others. At the core, humans are all the same, we fear what we lack. Mankind can not live with out being surrounded by others.

We do not know why we exist. In fact, maybe the reason why we exist is just to find out the answer to this question. Another question, can we all honestly say we are happy about being alive, down to the very core of things. We always want to be happy, we do not like being sad, which is why we choose to run away from problems.

Running from problems, and escaping reality can be painful, even if it is something worth running away from. As long as you know what the pain you’re feeling is, it can be endured. If, after every things been said and you still hate it, you can still run, its your choice, but know that running away only brings more pain. If you run away, no one will respect you. Than you are hated, and that original fear becomes truth.

Depending on others to do everything for you is one of the lowest things you can do, but it’s better than being alone. Know this, you are not the only one that gets hurt, everyone feels pain. Its just easier for you to think that is true. After that you go back to abandoning all sense of self value. Do you really believe that by not expecting anything you will not get hurt? You start to sustain your ego by asking others to praise you. It is not true that no one excepts you, you just believe that is so.

You start to think that the only thing that defines you is what you do, like, for an example, your job. You think that this justifies your presence on Earth, like you also perceive that you have no other value, and that you hate yourself.

You imagine everyone saying that they hate you, every last person, from your best friend to someone that you’ve never met. I must reiterate if you hate yourself, no one respects you. Than you say you hate everything, and fall back on something, any thing or anyone that will make you feel like you have that worth. They temporarily make you feel excepted. If you depend on these things or people, they will become your only identifier, your only value, and without that value the you, the real you, will be erased from existence.

You say that you don’t care about this because you had no values to start off with anyway. Soon, that thing or person could betray you, move on, and with that you lose your only self value with it.

What do you want? To not feel insecure? Do you want peace of mind? Do you want not to be hated? ...Do you want all three?

What humans fear is rejection, what humans want is to connect and to be recognized. If you loved someone, your mother, a friend, and they died, would you want to be with them? In the depths of your heart do you honestly think you would die for them? You love them, it should be an easy choice, but you can not decide, can you. Why is this? We are all truly afraid of death, because than human contact will be impossible, which makes us terrified.

So you wish for a resolution to the insecurity, a resolution to the loneliness. To become secure you must have value, we want to be worth enough to attract the attention of others. But value is something you find for yourself.

There is a you that exists in everybody else’s mind. You have a shape that lets others recognize you as yourself. Your habits, clothes, even your name, all representations of a description of yourself, but it may not be the “true” you. Everything is just a shape, form, or an identifier to let others recognize you as “you.” But than where do you exist? What are you? Are even images of you your true self, or are they your fake self? ...So than, What are you? The answer is simple, you are “YOU”

There is very little difference between how you interpret yourself and how others interpret you. Your clothes, shoes, room, all parts of what make up yourself. These things are connected to your consciousness. So what you recognize as yourself is yourself. You are no more or less than the sum of your self awareness. But you say you do not understand yourself. Once again you ask, what are you, where are you. That is why you wish for your soul to be closed off. No body understands you...OF COURSE NO ONE UNDERSTANDS YOU! The only one that can take care of you and understand you fully is YOU. So you must take care of yourself. But you Still do not understand yourself. Your don’t even know what it is that makes you yourself. How can you love yourself?

Picture the present you. The people around the present you, and the environment around the present you, all of these things influence the present you, but none of the elements of reality last forever, time continues to flow an times will change. You are capable of change anytime the mind foresees these changes.

In a world of perfect freedom, you have no burdens, no worries, there is nothing except for you. You can do anything you want with nothing to stop you. Perfect Freedom- A world without restrictions. But, is that really freedom. By definition, the answer is yes, that is freedom to the fullest. However the world has nothing in it. Unless You Do Something. Unless you do or think of something.... You don’t know what to do? There is nothing solid in this world, no obstacles. You can do anything you want in this world but you are still afraid to. Lets start with this, a restriction of ground has been added, you now have a top and bottom to your world. But doing this means you have lost a degree of freedom. You may no longer fly or float. But you feel easier now because you have less to trouble your mind, and now you can walk. This is because you can will yourself to walk. A floor is the only boundary in this world. You could even turn the world upside down if you wanted to. The thing that forms your shape in this world is your mind. You can do anything there because it is your world. It is the shape of your reality. In fact, It Is Reality. But in that world only you exist, but than you have nothing to interact with. It would be as if you were there, but not there at all, you are both everything and nothing at the same time. But without others to interact with, you can not recognize your own image.

What does that have to do with all of this though? (Your image of yourself) In the act of observing others, you define and recognize yourself. Your self image is restrained by having to observe the barriers between yourself and others. We cannot see ourselves without the presence of others. Because there are others you can perceive yourself as an individual.

If you are alone than you will be the same, with no others. For if there is only you in the world there will be no difference between you and nothing. By recognizing the differences between you and others, you establish your identity as yourself. For instance, your mother is a different individual than you are. You are you and she is she. Is it true that the perceptions of others form your true self image. Yes, it is, in a way.

There are many different ways your life can go, by the choices you have made, you could be a geek or the coolest kid in school, in different realities both are possible, it is all because of the choices you made. Yourself is the same way. The current yourself is not the true yourself. You can be any way you wish to be. Yourself who is not sad can exist too. If you take this into consideration, than maybe life isn’t so bad after all. The reality itself might not be that bad, but you can still hate yourself. But its your mind that separates it into good and bad. The mind separates reality from truth.

Any new position from which you view your reality will change your perception of its nature. Its all literally a matter of perspective. There are as many truths as there are people, but there is only one truth that is yours. Thats the one formed from whatever view that you choose to view it from. It’s a revised perception, that protects you. one can have a perspective that is far to small. However, a person can only see things from the perspective that they choose to view it from.

One must learn to judge things the other perceived truths that one receives from others. For example, sunny days make you feel good, rainy days make you feel gloomy. If you are told this is so, that is what you believe to be, but you can have fun on rainy days too, right.

Your truth can be changed simply by the way you except it. Thats how fragile the truth really is. A persons truth is simple, that most ignore it to concentrate on what they think are deeper truths. Some people are simply unused to being liked by others, never learning about what others feel about you and so you avoid it.

If you still think others hate you, than you are stupid. It is all in your imagination.

If you still say you hate yourself, consider this, “One who truly hates themselves cannot love, cannot place his trust in others.” You are only cowardly, sneaky, and weak f you think you are, but if you know yourself, you can take care of yourself. You can put your trust in others, and maybe you can love others, and you can even love yourself. Remember you are no more or less that what you perceive yourself to be. Now, do you want to start being happy, is your life worth living now? One question remains....

Now What Are Your True Feelings