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Hey, so I'm not exactly using my journal like I'm supposed to I guess. I just keep putting stuff I buy in here so as not to lose it, but I suppose I could give you guys a little insight into my life. ;p
I just recently started Cuesta College in town. I'm really liking my classes, it's very strange getting back into the groove of classes and homework and everything. It's especially strange to have to be somewhere at a particular time and not being able to not go if I don't feel up to it. It's sort of nice. I am sort of nervous walking around the campus not knowing anyone, not knowing what my teachers want in their assignments, having to sing in front of people all by myself - I'm a lot more self concious than I used to be around strangers - it's weird, but I'm hoping it'll fade away and I'll be back to my usual loud self soon ;p
So anyway, here are the dolls I just bought - they're so kewl!
The kewlest thing ever happened today - I got a random PM from Mildmanerdartist saying that she was practicing for a Chibi shop and like my AV, and the fact that I liked SIP was kewl so she drew this for me - I love it!!!
I now suddenly understand the addiction to buying art - when it's good, it's awesome!
The Caffeine Queen · Wed Aug 30, 2006 @ 01:37am · 0 Comments |
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Please read this all the way through, as I tried to be very thorough and well thought-out and would appreciate not having to repeat myself.
Aoschi cool....abortion is wrong to me if the reason is: - woman/girl is too scared to go through with the pregnancy - woman/girl doesn't want to care for it - i can't say i am against a rape case because i am not in their shoes to get an abortion just because you are scared or because you can't take care of it is dumb. if your scared...grow up...if you can't take care of it, don't kill it...there is adoption
-Pregnancy can kill the mother. I am not going to blithely agree to do something that may kill me, with or without complications...I don't blame women for being scared of pregnancy. I sure as hell am. Especially if the mother is younger I would understand it because it is an immense amount of pain that they might not be prepared to handle. It can certainly damage their bodies. -If a person knows they will not care for their child I would prefer they not have one than abuse it because of neglect. -And while this doesn't directly affect what you stated, I do want to be clear that men are susceptible to be raped also. I don't think your quote said they didn't I just thought I'd be sure that knowledge was written in case it was saying that.
Aoschi cool....abortion is wrong to me if the reason is: - the baby or mother may be harmed or killed in delivery
If the mother or baby may be killed in delivery I do believe that it is the mother's choice whether or not to have the baby. Usually because if the baby might be killed by the delivery it will probably hurt the mother horribly as well (physically), meaning if a baby dies during birth it can cause severe problems for the mother's life. On the same token if the mother dies while giving birth it can kill the baby.
Aoschi your right...adoption does not solve unwanted pregnancy. but if the woman was grown up enough to have sex, she was grown up enough to take on the responsibility of raising a child...again i cannot judge about rape cases...i am not in their shoes.
Let's see it again shall we?
Aoschie if the woman was grown up enough to have sex, she was grown up enough to take on the responsibility of raising a child
I simply have to say that you're living in a dream world. It's fine to have that idealist opinion, but that does nothing to deal with the fact that that will never be the case. I agree that if someone is choosing to have sex they should be able to maturely handle the consequences...but it just isn't happening. More and more children are having sex younger and younger. Hopefully this will be stopped, but making abortion illegal is not the way to do it. Only well taught morality and responcibility can teach children that. Not forcing a child on them.
Rabid-Llama I think the 13 year old should have to finish the pregnancy and deal with her actions. But.. I also thik she should put the baby upf for adoption. I can't stand it that people use it as a way of bithcontrol. If you do not want a baby and you are not stable enough to care for one emotionally or financially and are not married then keep your freakin pants on. I know that is pretty much impossible but that is where I stand. Only time I see it as right is if it is threatening the mother's life. You can call me stupid, flame me, whatever. my opinion is not going to change. I was almost aborted. thank god my father wouldn't allow it. He went ahead and gave me up for adoption rahter than doing that. I respect your opinion and decision to be for abortion and all I ask is that you respect mine because, well... it's an opinion and I have every right to it.
I respect your opinion. Still, I must disagree.
Do you remember being 13? I do...I would in no way be prepared to deal with having a fetus grow inside of me for months and to then give birth. Not to mention the fact that schools will not allow a pregnant mother there after a point. They are not allowed to live their normal lives. If a woman could be pregnant and not have it get in the way of her schooling I might even agree with you, but there's the other point that it completely affects her way of life. In a way that cannot be changed.
Think of it as someone who has a disease. Someone who cannot manage to go to school, or live their life the way they want to. If there were a cure for that disease wouldn't they take it? From very personal experience if I had a disease and a cure, or a way to get back to old life was an option, I would take it. Please keep in mind this paragraph is pure hypothetical simile.
As for using it as birthcontrol. I do not agree with people using Abortion as birth control. However, I do have to say that I would much prefer the people who do that use abortion as birth control rather than breed. I cannot stand for someone to bring another unwanted, and unloved child into this world to young stupid parents.
I cannot comment on your personal situation. And while I don't want to offend you I do not believe the man should have the final word in this particular decision. As much as I believe the sexes should be equal, the man does not give up the 9-10 months to carry the child. If he is willing to care for it, or can find adoption, and can then convince the mother to go for it, I say it's fine. He legally owns 50% of the fetus. However...he has no say in the carrying of it. Woman should not be forced to give birth.
By law you cannot force someone to do something for you. Well in my opinion, a man suing a woman for having an abortion should be illegal. Until the man can carry the child I must persist in the fact that the woman should have the final word.
Now for my response to adoption. While I do believe adoption is a viable option to use instead of abortion, it is not a perfect system either. There is child abuse, and neglect. And so many children fall through the cracks and never find a family. Many children put up for adoption have emotional and social problems merely because they were put up for adoption. Again, I'm not saying it doesn't work quite a bit of the time, and there have been refineries to the system to make it safer for children, but it is not perfect. And because it is not perfect it cannot be the perfect solution instead of abortion.
Aoschi like i said i can't tell a woman what to do in a rape case but at the same time it's not the kids fault his father was a rapist. the child should not have to pay for what the rapist did. if the mother looks at the child as a monster because it came from a monster she needs her head checked. all babys are innocent. the rapist is the monster...not the child.
To finish: You are correct, it is not the fetus or child's fault the father was a rapist. However, the social-mental-emotional trauma of having to bare the offspring of the rapist to the mother is detrimental, and it's horrifyingly cruel to demand it of her. Honestly, I doubt I would be strong enough because that offspring would remind me everyday of the events that led to it's creation. I don't believe mother's look at their children as another monster...but it would serve as a constant reminder for what had happened.
Here is my overall opinion; cold and blunt as it may be. There is a seniority to life. If the mother is alive and well now, then there should be no reason to cause her harm because of an unwanted developement.
Here is a very loose metaphor:
If a person has a tumor growing in their body that will sap it's nutrients, energy, and could actually kill the host do you believe they should have the option of getting it removed?
I know, I know. It's a bad metaphor, and is only LOOSELY based on the definition of a fetus. However, if it is their body I believe they should have the right to make that decision.
I'm not saying everyone should be encouraged to have it. Having an abortion could be very traumatic to a woman also. But I believe every woman should have the option so that they will not try and deal with it on their own. All that will lead to is the mother's and the baby's death.
I am sorry if I have offended anyone, and I do hope responses will be well thought out, if this gets responded to. This is merely my opinion. And while I hold it in high regard, I understand you might not.
I believe abortion should be a choice. That at the very least, it should be an option.
The Caffeine Queen · Sat May 06, 2006 @ 12:37pm · 0 Comments |
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The Burn-Hole in the Pants Story |
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I went down to the beach for a bonfire and there were supposed to be 20 people there, there ended up being 4 including me ;p
So we had lots of soda, chips, candy, everything left over
And we were all high on fire smoke and stir crazy even though we were outside, so our friend Drew starts breaking the glowsticks and throwing the stuff around
And then he decides to shake up a soda and put it in the fire
Not too much happens, just some fizzing
So after it's been fizzing for a half hour or something
Our friend Godde reaches over with the hatchet to cut wood with and splits the can in the fire in half.
It goes...FOOM!
Suddenly there's this mushroom cloud spray of pepsi, and all of the embers in the fire go flying towards us, completely engulf Godde, and we're all screaming.
I bury my head in Drew's chest, he's facing towards the sand, Jannell is huddled under a blanket, and we have no idea what happened to Godde, we're just hoping he didn't throw the hatchet towards us.
After about a minute, it all settles, we're covered in drops of pepsi, and there are embers still burning hot in the sand, we're all going, "WTF?!", and suddenly it occurs to me that my a** is burning
So I reach over, and it turns out I had sat back down on an ember that burned through my shorts
So now i have this tiny black burn mark on my shorts, some of the blankets have holes also, and Godde's towel caught on fire...
But the best part is after we get all the embers put out and everything we look over at Drew and he's shaking up another soda going, "Let's do that again!!!!!!!!!"
Us: "HELL NO!"
And that's the story of the burn hole in Natasha's pants ;p
The Caffeine Queen · Sun Nov 20, 2005 @ 12:25pm · 1 Comments |
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Is it that as we get older the things that affect us and our problems get larger? Or is it just that we can feel them more intensively?
I find this question bugging me a lot.
It seems that as we get older we get more depressed, meaning we can recall our childhood as a carefree happy time as opposed to now.
But...when I think about it, there's correlation with how happy you are and how much information you have.
As we get older we're told more and more truths. Truths that can often be painful, unfair, and hard. Much like life itself.
So I think it ends up getting back to the eternal question: is ignorance bliss?
Or...is it better to be a happier person without more knowledge, or a less happy person who is very learned.
Not to say that knowledge is intelligence, or the other way around. I know people in my school with much higher reading capacities, better grades, definitely much better SAT scores...but I think life experiences add to intelligence by making people intellectual about life. Is one or the other more important? I have no idea...
"Human behavior isn't discernible because it isn't fixed. Ten different people have ten different smiles."
The Caffeine Queen · Wed May 04, 2005 @ 06:48am · 1 Comments |
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Another pointless Random entry ;p |
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Here's the link to my quest, I put the pretty cosplay pic in my sig for awhile instead.
The Caffeine Queen · Thu Apr 28, 2005 @ 05:49am · 0 Comments |
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In some random chat room on literature:
the day is coming...soon...when we will have to get a prescription for buying oranges at a supermarket.
The Caffeine Queen · Wed Apr 27, 2005 @ 09:08am · 0 Comments |
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Kristin's quote of the day:
"the only reason I was flustered when Daniel asked me out was because that was like a pitcher throwing a football to the batter in a major league game ;p
it was just "WTF???" ;p"
LMAO, I love metaphors don't you?
The Caffeine Queen · Sat Apr 16, 2005 @ 11:54pm · 2 Comments |
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So yeah...UC Berkeley turned me down.
I don't know why I'm so disappointed, I know my SATs weren't good enough to get me in...but I was so counting on it.
It's just like all the comfort schools I applied to are the ones who decided I wasn't particularly extraordinary and didn't want me there. Every single UC I applied to turned me down.
But everywhere else really liked me. All of the private schools, or universities, of course they all like me.
So to go it'll end up costing about $30,000-$40,000 a year not factoring on which school, and which scolarships or loans I take.
For four years, after factoring in the average scolarship help, it'll cost about $100,000 to go for 4 year. That's $100,000 I'm pretty sure my family just doesn't have.
And...what do I do now? The one school I'm really passionate about is two states away, and they offered me no scolarships, and...goddamn it.
It's scary...y'know? I mean college was about getting out of this town, yeah, but...not going far enough away to never get back. I have friends, and family, and I wanted to go to a college close enough where I could at least visit more often than not every few weeks.
I dunno.
I'm just...more sad about it than anything else. It's weird...I didn't even really want to go to UCB anymore, but by applying through the handicap scolarship I thought I would probably get in.
Oh well. Now onto a week filled with unfun and most likely unfair decisions about what the hell I'm going to do about college.
The Caffeine Queen · Sun Apr 10, 2005 @ 07:48am · 3 Comments |
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