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So. I went to this party last night (against my will, of course... as always.) it was out in santa rosa and it was pretty horrible.
Normally this one factor wouldn't bother me too much but I'll just say that... I was a bit of a Novelty there.
It wouldn't have mattered if people didn't walk over to my friend sitting right next to me... and introduce themselves warmly to her...
...and completely ignore me.
Once? Okay, fine. Maybe they just forgot/are rude like that/mean/didn't think about it/didn't like me/whatever. Fine, fine, fine.
But even when the host pointed me out introducing me after introducing my friend, they just walked on by but shook her hand and chitchatted with her.
Damn.. in my opinion, it's just common Courtesy to not ignore someone who's RIGHT NEXT TO the person you just introduced yourself to...
And last time I checked, I'm a brown girl. Not invisible.
And here goes my disclaimer... I don't like it when people use the race card to argue the other person's actions... like when they say, "It's coz I'm black, isn't it?" It's often not the case, or at least I'd like to think it to not be the case. I hate to think/feel like people are racist... but I'm not blind to the fact that it *is* out there, but it's just a little more discrete than it was back when.
So Itried telling myself that maybe it's just me. Maybe it was because I just look mean, or didn't seem approachable. Or maybe *they're* just mean/rude/forgot/whatever.
But it didn't work too well this time... especially when my friend pointed it out to me. "Are you the only person in here who isn't white?"
I couldn't help but to just think.
How much does it really matter to someone else that I'm not what they are?
I'm a nice girl. Really, I am. I just wish more people would take me for WHO I am, not WHAT I am.
 tokyofro · Sun Oct 29, 2006 @ 09:07pm · 3 Comments |
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While I understand that Slimfast may very well work for some people out there...
...Not this one.
From my experience with this Slimfast shake (in Strawberries N' Cream) is that it will make me lose weight in the sense that it made me want to vomit what food/drink/whatnot might have been in my stomach at that time.
And a road to bullemia is a no-no.
soooo not that desparate. (yet)
Gross.
Thanks.
...but no thanks. </3
No more short cuts... gotta do this the right way. *sigh*
tokyofro · Sat Oct 07, 2006 @ 10:24pm · 1 Comments |
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I'm not all that religious or anything, but this came at the right time and I thought it was really uplifting + inspiring. 3nodding
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BLESS...
'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.'
Bless
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heart
tokyofro · Wed Jul 05, 2006 @ 07:41pm · 0 Comments |
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ladies + your relationships... |
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Stole this from a friend... Some if it holds true... so read along now, read along.
46 lessons that MUST be learned in relationships:
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him
away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things
are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and
aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he
doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a
bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the .1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
tokyofro · Fri Apr 21, 2006 @ 10:52pm · 0 Comments |
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