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13.The main need of a human

We always, always need to tell people how special they are to us as much as possible, because every human just wants that closeness, but some just don’t know how to get it, and that’s where a lot of us get in trouble. We try so many wrong ways to just get that feeling of being loved unconditionally, but yet nobody tries to give that kind of love, that’s one reason that spurred me to write this. Now, people need physical as much as mental love; hugs, telling them things, you know, that kind of stuff. But it seems once people are a certain age, they just stop, but they still miss that curling up in their mother’s lap and going to sleep. I can feel that in a lot of people. Maybe you’re too big to curl up in someone’s lap, but just tell them they mean the world to you, and lay your head on their shoulder. Yeah, people revolve around searching for that kind of love, but not many can find it, because people learn to push it away, or they don’t know how to handle it. I’ve seen in life how the lack of love, or fake love or pretend love can destroy a person. It also makes a person who they are almost all the time. If you notice, people who grew up with families who don’t really care, a lot of times, they are hurting, and people who had families who cared a lot are more gentle and happier. That’s because they have those arms to go to. Everyone needs someone, anyone that they can trust and put their arms around; someone that will always be there even when the dark clouds are over head, someone like a family member or a special friend. But not many are willing to do that, and you need to learn how to see that heart in someone through watching how they are to others, and getting to know them better. But then again, some people who need that love push it away because they don’t know how to handle it, almost as if it scares them. That’s why I basically give my heart in when I love someone to death. Keep in mind that that person can let you down sometimes, because it’s human nature, but unconditional love always comes out on top.