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IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition(or spirit)to save you from
heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a
relationship that is not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends
because the man was not treating you as you deserve;
then hell no, you can't "be friends." A friend
wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you
feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will
get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later
for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is
you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a
bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when
he got them pregnant,why would he treat you any
differently? Always have your own set of friends
separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy
treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it
against you later. You cannot change a man's
behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make
him feel he is more important than you are, even if
he has more education or is in a better job. Do not
make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more
nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow another woman's man. Oh Lord! If he
cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will
only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one
doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships.
There is nothing cute about baggage.
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.
Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun, even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know
where you are, and you're always readily available
to him, he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit
to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies. You'll make some
SMILE, some others RETHINK their choices, and other
women PREPARE.It takes a minute to find a special
person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love
them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Read more: http://www.myspace.com/solsticelight#ixzz0zGQHFgkZ


My very good and wise friend posted this on Myspace. Wish all women would see this! Wish I had lived by it.