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As said in the subject above, I want to die....I have heard this a many time from various people I have come to talk to personally over Gaia. I will say no names. but i will say that these people tell me theirs problems and tell me that I am one of the only people they can truely talk to abou ttheir true life personal problems.

I ask you, How many times has someone talked to you or said in an OOC post or any other place in any other form...and you just brushed them off, saying things like, You think your life is bad? HA! why don't you just get a ******** grip and face reality.....yadda yadda blah blah...ok, so you getthe picture, right? I mean, come on people! These people are real! They're not kidding when they say they can't take the pain in life because they have no one to talk to or they say 'your the only person I can seriously talk to about this...' because they really beleave you listen to them.

WELL HELL! I know a lot of peple who just brush peopl elike this off and tell them to get a life, just because they are having problems. I am not saying any of you who are reading this do that or that you don't, but these people DO have a life, and their having a troubled time, and even though they don't know you in person, they are trusting you with this and asking you for help!

HELP THEM! They migth actually kill themselves because they feel alone. Left out. Like they are the only person feeling like this in the world. Here are some tips I can give you to which I go by when talking to a person like this...

Tell them they aren't the only person with that type of problem. But not HARSHLY! kindly tell them you know how they fell and that you have gone through the same thing, or that you've experienced similar problems and pains. this doesn't mean to go and make it up! It just mean, compare and contrast! Big hint. If you don't know what those words mean, ask someone, or look it up.

Speeking of asking....The people I usually talk to tell me alot of things that say they don't have anyone to talk, though I find out because they don't 'ask'. Tell them not to be afraid to ask for help. Ask a close friend you are really close to. One you can really 'TRUST' (thats a big clue word).

Also. I tell these 'people' not to be afriad to cry, in any way! Screaming, tearing, talking, etc... Holding back those tears is holding back your negitive (not saying all means of tears are negitive. lots of tears are positive tears too) feelings. If they hold back their tears too much, they are just letting all those feelings build up and thus they are just going to feel even worse.

Tell them not to be afraid to cry, no matter who is around. The people there when you cry can help you with your problems too. Tell them to let out their screams they have to let out. Screaming is good for letting off a little emotion and negativity.

Here's a major one for you.
Most feelings can only be let out vocally. Talk, sing, scream, cry adn let out those short moan or sighs or gasps as you cry. LET IT ALL OUT!!!! Or else you'll always have that negativily inside.

You can even think. thinking helps alot too, take actions if you must, but don't do anything stupid, that you think or know you will regret. Liek they say, 'look before you leap'.

Now, I am going to tell you now, you don't have to go by my words. I am not a proffesional, or anything. I go by my insticts, and what I know helps people. I speek by heart, not by mind.

I will post later a similar post to this one, but what exactly I usually tell people.